Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Six More Months of Shuffle and Change

The last post I wrote was July 2018. We were settling into routine, finding a groove, and trying to fit our family of five into a two-bedroom-pretending-to-be-three-bedroom-townhouse-with-frustrating-layout-and-high-rent. 

I spent much of the first half of 2018 house hunting. We had looked at renting a bigger place, but as the cost on that would have been about $500 more per month if we got lucky (possibly more like $700-$800), we wound up looking to buy a home instead. Which wasn't much easier to find something in our price range and with what we desired--and I promise, we weren't asking for anything huge or crazy! 

However, after months of searching, dragging the poor children with me at odd times to this house and that (Z-man still asks occasionally, when we drive by a house he decides he likes, if we can call Mr. Ken--our realtor--and look inside! Doesn't matter if the house is actually for sale or not; Mr. Ken has the magic key!), we finally found a little house in our price range with the space we needed and  a family willing to accept our offer (in fact willing to give us a break and accept our offer when a higher offer was on the table--that was a God-moment right there!). 

So, August brought

- Blueberry's eighth birthday
- Ell's first birthday
- Chris' 40th birthday
- Charlotte starting ballet back up again
- Several sets of guests
- And a bid and accepted offer on a house with all the headache and insanity that brings with it.

September brought packing, paperwork, money, more packing, and finally our moving day. 

And so the rest of 2018 kind of felt like we had returned to where we were at around that same time in 2017! Minus the newborn and knowing at least a few more people and having a slightly better feel for the area: 

- Unpacking
- Settling
- Learning the area (because we're now on the exact opposite end of town, and let me tell you, it's really thrown my driving for a loop!)
- Trying to keep up school in the midst of the insanity
- And a continuation of growing in relationships and our involvement in community here

I'm excited to see where 2019 takes us, and hope I can share snapshots of our journey with you.

Sunday, July 1, 2018

One Year Ago Today

On this day, one year ago, we completely changed our lives. We drove away from jobs and home and loved ones to a new adventure of the very much unknown. At 8 months pregnant it was terrifying. But God had us. And has us. And this past year has been full of Him.


Tuesday, June 5, 2018

So What Now? Home Life Edition

Do you find the day to day mundanes of other people's lives fascinating? I do. Well, depends on the person of course. But in general, the different ways that people tackle the world. The things that they view as so normal. The habits they've chosen to incorporate into the world. What they must have. What they avoid at all costs. Such a snapshot of the uniqueness of our world.

So what does our little world look like now? I've already shared with you about our physical home and the current kitchen adventures.

But who is actually living and breathing in this home and snarfing down these kitchen goodies? What do we do with our days? All those little things that make up this "grand thing we call life."

My days are made up of the following:

1. Caring for baby
2. Caring for the other two children.
3. Caring for/supervising care for a dog.
4. Maintaining my home including cleaning, cooking, shopping, bill paying, etc, etc. You know--that stuff!
5. Teaching
6. Editing
7. Living

1. Baby girl is a joy and honestly such a calm little girl (knock on wood, praying hard this continues, go ahead and throw that salt over your left shoulder!). She is now 9 months old and growing fast. We're already transitioning into 12 month clothes. She crawls lightening fast, climbs stairs, and explores and is ready to start walking any time--she just needs to forget what she's doing and do it! She is signing more and more (literally--she's signing "more") and babbles away when the mood strikes (in a rather loud, assertive voice--apparently being the youngest she feels the need to make sure we're hearing her).

She is still somewhat hesitant with most other people except our immediate family--even those she sees regularly. But she's screaming less and just studying them more.

Her thumb is still her best friend. And, with some exceptions, she is still my least-stressful sleep baby. And I love it!

2. Bluberry and Zander-Man have both grown (physically and emotionally and mentally) so much this last year. They are settling into our world here well. Zander is at the age where his memories of NC and house-parenting are rapidly disappearing. Blueberry still struggles with missing our "Big Girls" and some of her friends from NC, but as time goes on and we settle more firmly into our lives here, she is happier.

They absolutely love the weather and probably spend between two to three hours outdoors most days. There is a strip of yard behind our house that they have taken over (trying to not terrorize/annoy the neighbors). They play around the front. We are in walking distance of parks. They love it.

3. Kip Guile is the latest addition to our family. Obtained in January of this year, he is a toy fox terrier of a grand total of about 8 pounds--full grown as he is 2 years old. He thinks he's more like 60 pounds and is determined to take on every dog/person/strange thing that he sees and protect us all. It's taken some work as we've decided he either wasn't well socialized as a puppy or is just a neurotic little mess. However, he's becoming steadily better behaved and minding his manners better. Which is good as for awhile there we did have some concerns about if we needed to try again with a different dog--which was not a happy idea for anyone, least of all Blueberry who is most definitely mistress of Kip and the love of his life. He has, in time, warmed to all of us, generally speaking. But she's the one he runs to check on the most and whines to go see if he isn't with.

4. Home life and maintenance. Ah, where to begin. Well, I shan't go into much here, at least not for now. It's all been an adjustment going from working as a houseparent to just being a regular parent with a different focus. And not having Chris around during the day to help with the constant interactions with the kids does wear down my introverted soul sometimes. I'm learning to manage myself better and maintain my needed boundaries and ways of breathing. Fortunately, the beautiful thing of having a husband who has "been there/done that" in a way (in terms of working at home) is that he understands the big picture of all I do, and is willing to help out however he can. We're finding a nice rhythm to our lives--changing and adjusting as baby grows and activities grow and family needs morph.

5. Teaching. I am continuing to homeschool Blueberry and Zander. I honestly love it, and the thought of sending them away to school (while appealing occasionally when they're being difficult) really isn't one I entertain. I will explore this topic in more detail (possible too much detail!) at a later point. But homeschool life, curriculum, learning, and all related are a huge part of our existence.

6. Editing. This has proven to be one of the more surprising aspects of my life the past 10 months. I've always continued to edit for seminary/masters students even while we were house-parenting. The extra income is always helpful, and I enjoy it. However, I haven't done a lot the last few years as I simply didn't have the time.

In December, I was contacted by a minister/executive for the Pacific Northwest Assemblies of God needing an edit on a book he was publishing. Thanks to our thoughtful pastor, he had suggested my name, and I spent much of late December/early January working at that. The money was perfect as it allowed us to purchase Kip, and I definitely enjoyed getting my fingers back into editing.

Then in January I was contacted by another gentleman for a different ministry who was looking for a regular editor for their organization. Long story short, I agreed to take that on part-time, and have been enjoying that since. The hours are decent, I get to work from home, and the pay is definitely a bonus right now as, while God is taking care of us and we're living comfortable, we have absolutely no wiggle room in our budget. This is creating a way for us to handle some other financial matters with less stress, and that makes me happy.

I've also had a few more other small jobs pop up the last few months, and another lady needing a book editing that she is self-publishing. So all in all, my editing continues to flow well and I'm thankful (for I have no doubt of how this all came about) for the Lord's looking out for us in all ways and times.

7. Living. The things that make this existence worthwhile and memorable. We're enjoying exploring the area. I absolutely adore living in a valley with both mountains (and volcanoes . . . ) and the ocean just short drives away. Of course Seattle and Portland are both great cities to explore and be close to as well. This will continue to be a factor as the kids grow and interests abound.

The church we're attending just kind of landed in our lap and has been a huge blessing since the first day we arrived. I'm enjoying getting to know some of the ladies from there; and we're slowly getting more involved ministry-wise. Not taking on anything too quickly though. They have a fabulous kids program, and that's been amazing for Blueberry and Zander.

Reality check in our lives the past ten months--particularly the first six--is that in addition to having a newborn, we really had a lot of stress and processing to deal with and work through. Both Chris and I feel like we're just now coming out of all that, and the evidence is being seen in small ways. Both of us exploring writing again for a start.

Friends are coming. Some through the church. Some through the neighborhood (because it is such a new neighborhood, it seems a little easier to meet other people as they move in than can sometimes be the case. Although even now I'm beginning to lose track of who all lives down here). Others we've met through the homeschool co-op we joined in the spring. Each one a little root shooting into the ground as we become more planted in our new home and find ourselves growing strong.

All in all, life is beginning to flourish here. Are all things perfect--nope. Are all things settled--nope. Are we always open to the move of God and His direction--I sure hope so. He's not led us wrong yet.

But as I said to Blueberry the other night when she was having a rough night . . . God moved heaven and earth to get us here. It literally took miracles to make this happen. I don't believe for a second that there is a not a reason for that. And our job now is to live our lives the best we can and seek after what the purpose is--whether it is simply breathing into other people's lives or taking on a whole new ministry. Who knows. He will show us, and in the meantime, we ontologize.

Six More Months of Shuffle and Change

The last post I wrote was July 2018. We were settling into routine, finding a groove, and trying to fit our family of five into a two-bedroo...